Physical affection christian dating
It doesn’t talk about being single, dating, dating some more, hooking up, hanging out but not really dating, living together but not being married, swiping left and right, etc.
That doesn’t mean the Bible is out-of-date; it may mean that we’re just doing this whole dating thing wrong.
Later in life, when marriage actually was a possibility, each dating relationship carried the question of when we should first kiss.
I wish I could say I was wise about it, but the ignorance of junior high continued, and therefore I was driven more by emotions and desires.
The Bible does talk quite a bit about kissing, including at least one clear instance of kissing before marriage.
In fact, in that case (Genesis ), you have a guy (Jacob) kissing his future wife (Rachel) the first time they meet, sort of like a first date.
Based on things like marriage and divorce rates, their way worked out a lot better than today’s way.
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But just a few generations ago, 90% of what we tend to do in dating today would have sounded crazy, while waiting until marriage for any kind of physical intimacy would have been the cultural norm.
And it would be hard to say you’re acting “with absolute purity” if you did. I’m not going to say you have to wait until your wedding to kiss, because the Bible doesn’t clearly say that. If you decide to kiss before marriage, you haven’t necessarily sinned.
And where the Bible leaves things open, we have freedom. But there are some practical things to consider: I’ve officiated my share of weddings, and I’ve never once heard someone say that they wished they had gone farther physically before marriage.
Beyond bodily maladies, there are incalculable losses on a psychological and spiritual level as human beings live outside the protection of God’s design.
And perhaps the most tragic fallout of this state of affairs is the bum rap sex has gotten.